Whether you’re newly divorced, going through a divorce, or navigating the holidays for the first time while co-parenting, there’s no doubt that this time of year can get highly emotional. Both mothers and fathers want to spend the most time possible with their children. If your relationship with your ex is healthy and positive, there’s a chance you can work something out together so that the children enjoy time with both parents. But if you feel like you’re constantly battling your ex and need help to make the most of your time with your child or children during this magical season, then we’ve got some ideas for you.
Show You’re Willing To Compromise
Show your ex that you’re willing to compromise on whatever the current schedule is. Open the door for conversation by asking what their plans are and if there is anything you can do to make things easier. It’s not easy to play nice with someone that you feel is always making your life difficult, but you get more with sugar than you do with vinegar. By opening the door to compromise you might also be able to negotiate days that are outside of your existing arrangement.
Just be sure to consult with your attorney if you think there will be any issues to ensure you are crossing all your T’s and dotting your I’s.
Create New Traditions
Your holiday might look different than how you imagined, but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad holiday. Consider starting new traditions with your children. Perhaps you go pick a live tree and cut it down together or maybe you make it a point to volunteer at a community kitchen together to give back.
Get Away For Some Me Time
On days that you don’t have your children, invest in your mental health. Make sure you take some time to visit with friends, see a movie, or get a massage. Giving yourself permission to recharge while the kids are with your ex will ensure they have a healthy, happy parent to return home to.
Include Extended Family
Extended family is important. Grandparents, aunts, and uncles all sow into your child’s life. Talk with your family to get them on the same page of what your schedule is and how they can help you by accommodating it. It isn’t all about you, but your family loves you and your children and will likely be willing to accommodate your needs if you address them ahead of time.
Do you have questions about sharing custody and the best holiday schedule for you, your children, and your spouse? Get in touch with the New Hampshire family lawyers here at Cohen & Winters. With hundreds of parenting cases under our belt, our team can help you navigate the legal system and get the most time with your children possible.